Most people love that stinking TV, but I have a deep love/hate relationship with this electronic monster.
TV is usually something a person looks so forward to having in their possession. It is a warm embrace at the end of the day as you can plop down and watch whatever you like to numb the mind from the day’s grievances. I, however, have a complex emotion towards the TV. I enjoy a few shows here and there, don’t get me wrong. Its the absolute mind numbing shows they have for kids that just is infuriating to me.
I have a rule with our toddler. He is to get no more than an hour a day of TV. Now if you are anything like my mother, the protests are already flying!
” I let you watch Mr. Rodgers, Sesame Street, Square one, Where in the world is Carmen San Diego….” The end of that was that I turned out just fine. Which I like to think I did. I then have to show her that studies show kids should not just sit and watch TV as it can do more harm . Especially when the show is something like Sponge Bob. I shudder at that show. Again, this is just my own personal opinion. I am not telling you to not let your kiddo watch more TV. You can bet there are days where mine definitely has. I was so sick, the flu is fun, and to have him be calm I watch a barrage of Disney movies that I can only tell you made him love TV more than anything.
Which is why my hate part of the relationship is now the predominate side of how I feel about TV. I think it mostly stems from the absolute melt downs that come from being told he cannot sit and watch yet another super hero show as it is bedtime. The tears, begging, negotiating, defiance, and then the dreaded, ” I don’t like you, you’re a bed mom.” OH BUDDY! that just gets my goat!
Shows teach them rotten things
That is what gets me so flustered. When he was only watching about an hour, we had less fits. We were less likely to throw ourselves or toys to the ground and like a 16 year old huff at me and tell me what a lousy parent I am. Serious! I started really watching what my son watches. It is no wonder. Most kids shows have the parents as these dingy inattentive people who provide you food and a home, but will let you get away with murder because they are too busy or dumb. I was so upset. Most parents aren’t that way. At least I hope they aren’t.
Telling our kids they can be super heroes is great, telling them they can be because mom is too dumb to figure out that you are gone all night and will take no notice of the costume you wear that smells like foot after running, jumping and karate fighting. I can guarantee I would notice my sleep deprived kid moving like a slug in the morning and smelling like foot. Also, I think there would be weird things going on around my house that would cause me to take note, like installation of secret lair equipment. We live in a two story house, not an alpine mountain castle. I digress.
Personally, I have a beef with a certain sea life creature in brown angular pants. I was never a fan, and then they did a study and showed that it was doing exactly like I felt it was. It was making kids focus less, and test lower. Kids are sponges just eager to soak up knowledge. Some of what is geared for our kids is doing the opposite of that!
PBS is my Friend
I have no beef with Sesame Street. Aside from Elmo being slightly annoying, the letters, and counting are all still educational and fun and they incorporate music. It has my smile of approval. Also, I love dinosaur train( big surprise right!) because they teach the actual names of the dinosaurs and the eras they live in. Shows that are imparting something to my kiddo are shows I can get behind. I sit and watch these as well as shows like Super Why so that I can further elaborate on the concept he is learning later. If he watches a show that teaches him about rhyming ab words and sings a song, you better believe I am trying to remember the song. Its a hoot to watch when one gets stuck in your head.
TV can be your pal and babysitter, and it can be used for further educational concepts. Just be sure you are involved with your kiddo and let him know that no amount of sneaking around is going to get past you, and the giant robot on the lawn is going to be explained! What are your thoughts on TV and screen times? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!